Self-Abandonment
Self-abandonment is the habit of leaving your own needs, feelings, and opinions behind to keep someone else comfortable. You side with the other person against yourself, again and again, often without noticing.
Someone asks where you want to eat and your mind goes blank. You wait to hear their preference so you can want that too. That blankness is self-abandonment. So is laughing along with a joke that stung, agreeing out loud while disagreeing inside, and dropping your plan the moment it might inconvenience anyone.
It is the engine underneath people-pleasing. When pleasing others was how a child stayed safe, abandoning your own position became automatic, the fastest way to keep the peace. The cost is that you slowly lose track of what you actually think and feel, because every signal got overruled before it finished forming.
Coming back from it is small and quiet. Noticing the preference before you hand it away. Letting the disagreement exist without saying it out loud yet. You do not have to act on what you want right away. You just have to stop leaving the moment you notice it.