Conflict Avoidance
Conflict avoidance is the habit of dodging disagreement to keep things smooth, even when it costs you. You agree, stay quiet, or change the subject to keep tension from surfacing.
Avoiding conflict can look like good manners from the outside. Underneath, it is often the nervous system treating a hard conversation as a threat. If disagreement once meant a raised voice, a cold silence, or a withdrawn parent, your body learned that tension is dangerous and smoothing it over keeps you safe.
So you let the wrong order slide. You say the plan sounds fine when it does not. You rehearse a hard sentence for days and never send it. The relief afterward is real, and it teaches you to do it again. The cost shows up later as resentment, the feeling that no one knows what you actually wanted.
Conflict is not the same as danger, though your body may not know the difference yet. A boundary said plainly is a form of conflict you can survive. Noticing the urge to smooth things over, before you act on it, is where the choice lives.